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MODULE 4 – What are you carrying?

The remainder of Break The Cycle is about gleaning the guidance, messages and healing from your discoveries.  This week, your focus is on understanding and identifying your grievances and guilt so that you can make conscious choices about what you want to hold on to and clear out. You can make space for the relationships and experiences you want. You can make way for you. Let’s get started!

This section features the key tasks for this week and, where appropriate, additional resources.

What’s Are You Carrying? audio

Before you do step four or beyond of Break The Cycle, it’s important for you to do the previous steps.

It’s also important to do the steps in order.

Step Four: What’s the baggage behind it? | download the PDF

Next, watch the Step 4 explainer video when you’re finished. | AUDIO version

Get To Grips With Anger Guide | download the PDF

How To Cut Back On Passive Aggressiondownload the PDF

Gleaning The Messages, Guidance and Healing | download the PDF

Want to do extra?

The Unsent Letter Guide, Letters To Your Younger Self and Clearing and Releasing Emotional Charge exercises in the ‘foundational resources’ tab are a big help in getting ahead with processing and clearing.

The following exercises are really useful for understanding your needs further, something that you’re doing week by week here on Break The Cycle. These extra exercises are optional — only do what you’re open to doing and have the bandwidth for.

Figure Out Your Voids | download the pdf

What’s Driving You? needs exercise | download the pdf – If you want to fill out the ‘What’s Driving You?’ pdf instead of printing out, here are instructions for doing this.

Follow-up guide for What’s Driving you? needs exercise | download the pdf

If you’re unsure about your ‘top 8’ from the What’s Driving You? needs exercise, email your filled-out exercise to and I will let you know what I think your top 8 are during my next Office Hours session (Wednesdays). Please note that I don’t look at what you’ve put until afterwards. I include a brief explanation of why I chose those eight.

Watch/listen to 'What are you carrying?' class
Complete Step Four
Watch Step Four explainer video (only after completing this step!)
Read 'Get To Grips With Anger' guide
Go through the questions in 'Gleaning The Messages, Guidance and Healing'
Update your Circle of Trust from week one if needed
These are core resources that are the foundations of the Baggage Reclaim philosophy. I refer to them time and time and time again—they are all powerful tools that have been a fundamental part of my own transformation.

Clearing & Releasing Emotional Charge

How To Self-Soothe

Get Out Of Stuck | Beliefs Prompt | Get Out Of Stuck Quick Sheet | Beliefs Brainstorm Worksheet

Journaling Tips

Self-Care Practices For Working With Me

Feelings Diary | Journaling Guide

The Unsent Letter Guide

How to Write Letters to Your Younger Self

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