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MODULE 2 – What’s Your Pattern?

Step two of Break the Cycle is identifying your pattern by noticing the reoccurring themes and acknowledging some of the reasons why they’re there. I explain roles, beliefs and how these create your pattern, and I share tools to help you figure out what is going on.

This section features the key tasks for this week and, where appropriate, additional resources.

Audio for What’s My Pattern? class

This section features the key tasks for this week and, where appropriate, additional resources.

Remember that before you do step two work, you must do the step one work. This will ensure that you get the maximum insight out of the process.

#1 Do one or both of these exercises (depends on how deep you want to get):

Build Detailed Pattern Profiles | Download the PDF

What’s Been Going On In My Relationships? | Download the PDF

Figure out your pattern tip sheet by Natalie LueYou Can Figure Out Your Pattern tip sheet | download the PDF

Follow this up by summarising your findings with the step 2 worksheet | Download the PDF

Unavailable Relationships Investigation Manual: Your reference Guide | Download the PDF. This guide will help you familiarise yourself with relationships that represent a cycle that you need to break:

#2 Do Step Two: Identify Your Net Outcome | Download the PDF

Note: There is a needs exercise coming up in week three (plus more in the other weeks). 

Watch/listen to 'What is my pattern?'
Do Build Detailed Pattern Profiles and/or What's Been Going On In My Relationships?
Read Unavailable Relationships Investigation Manual
Complete Step Two of the Break The Cycle Process
Review your Circle of Trust by comparing it with your week 2 discoveries
These are core resources that are the foundations of the Baggage Reclaim philosophy. I refer to them time and time and time again—they are all powerful tools that have been a fundamental part of my own transformation.

Clearing & Releasing Emotional Charge

How To Self-Soothe

Get Out Of Stuck | Beliefs Prompt | Get Out Of Stuck Quick Sheet | Beliefs Brainstorm Worksheet

Journaling Tips

Self-Care Practices For Working With Me

Feelings Diary | Journaling Guide

The Unsent Letter Guide

How to Write Letters to Your Younger Self

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