by Natalie Lue | Oct 19, 2015 | Dealing With Tricky Family Members
When we’re around family members who are more assertive and aggressive than us plus we might view them as authorities or feel burdened by obligations, guilt and fear, their responses when we attempt to speak up and step up for ourselves can be feel quite intimidating,...
by Natalie Lue | Oct 19, 2015 | Dealing With Tricky Family Members
The Be Factual Approach can also be used to state your boundaries and outline consequences when approaching a TFM about unreasonable requests and behaviour. It will also address unreasonable expectations which is when they indirectly or directly communicate via...
by Natalie Lue | Oct 19, 2015 | Dealing With Tricky Family Members
So, you know that there’s an issue, you have an idea about why it’s there, you know that you need to be more boundaried from your end to limit the impact of engaging but to also alter your part in the dynamic, and you’ve had some specific ideas about how to approach...
by Natalie Lue | Oct 19, 2015 | Dealing With Tricky Family Members
Tricky family member issues are not limited to parents and siblings; there’s extended family (grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, pretend relatives), in-laws, plus you can even encounter issues with your own children. All TFM issues are a source of pain and it...
by Natalie Lue | Oct 19, 2015 | Dealing With Tricky Family Members
Recognise where self-preservation may have been misconstrued. Over the years, I’ve heard from lots of siblings who feel as if their sibling carries resentment because they were ‘good’, or they didn’t argue or even fight back when there was chaos going on at home. It...
by Natalie Lue | Oct 19, 2015 | Dealing With Tricky Family Members
**Note – Most of these suggestions apply with any relative that you also feel as if you’ve treated them like a sister or brother. When your TFM situation is with a sibling, it can in a lot of respects feel as if you’re stuck in a childhood time warp where...
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