Create an Esteem Jar
I spotted this Happiness Jar while surfing Pinterest one day. Basically, you scribble a note of gratitude each day and put it in the jar. It’s a way of connecting with your present and counting your blessings. Also, if you tend to spend an excessive amount of time in your imagination, recording little notes about your day encourages mindfulness. Instead of worrying about what isn’t happening or trying to anticipate what’s next, you’re in the now.
It occurred to me that it would be beneficial to do an Esteem Jar, which is a mix of expressing gratitude and noting something good about you.
It’s acknowledging where you’re making changes, shifting perspective, seeing results, no matter how small.
When you have an unhealthy pattern of thinking and behaviour, you lack self-awareness and self-knowledge, so this jar is like a wonderful positive jar full of you. It’s a visualisation of your daily contribution to your esteem ‘piggy bank’. When you’re having a dodgy day or week, you can cast your eyes at the jar and even read back through notes as a reminder.
This jar is all about good things that you’re doing for you that will, of course, help you to adapt your pattern of thinking and behaviour in the process. Think stuff like standing up to someone and saying NO. Or, saying YES to a new challenge that ordinarily you would have declined. It’s realising that there is something that you like about your body, remembering something that made you feel good that day or remembering something that you really tried at and, even though it wasn’t entirely successful, you’re pleased that you tried and are not beating you up for it.
If you’re a perfectionist, note where you’ve breathed out and let a mistake go by without the sky falling down. Note the acts of self-care, self-love, self-trust and self-respect.