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This month's key message

Taking care with my expectations creates more love, care, trust and respect.

This month’s theme is about expectations - your strongly held beliefs about what will and should happen. When we find ourselves in repeats of frustrating situations, it's time for us to recognise where we're setting us up for a fall with unrealistic expectations. Often it's the case that our expectations are, for all intents and purposes, 'normal' but who we're expecting it from and how we compromise ourselves in the process, causes us to have far less boundaries than we need. When you manage your expectations, not by managing them down but by distinguishing your expectations from boundaries, you will reduce the amount of disappointment, frustration, resentment etc., in your life and will enjoy more prosperous relationships and experiences.

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THIS MONTH'S PRE-RECORDED WEBINAR: How To Manage Your Expectations

How Self-Aware Are You?

Being self-aware is about being aware of who we are and knowing the difference between us and others. It means being aware our needs, desires, expectations, feelings and opinions and striving to bring us into alignment with these. Lack of self-awareness leads to us having unrealistic expectations of ourselves and others and ultimately leads to boundary issues, so self-awareness is power. It literally breaks patterns because patterns can only exist when we're living unconsciously.

How Self-Aware Are You? is a quiz that I created for an old course I used to run (The Pattern Breaker). Go through the statements and tick the ones that you agree with. It includes some journaling prompts for further investigation. There's also a statement guide - bit like an 'answer' sheet that explains what each statement you agreed with is communicating.


Learn how to confidently end relationships that aren't working so that you can free yourself up for a mutually fulfilling relationship

It’s so disheartening when you know that you need to break up but don’t want to, or are afraid of starting over, or you do break up but then lose your resolve and keep giving ‘one more chance’.

Even if you're not currently in a relationship, if you feel as if you went through an incredibly difficult time coming out of your previous relationship(s), this can affect how you show up in your next relationship or even whether you want a relationship at all.

Breaking up isn’t a natural skill or something we’re taught before we embark on relationships, and I too struggled with endings.

This is exactly why I created How To Break Up.

When you take this course, while breaking up will still hurt for a time, you will have the mindset, tools and commitment to minimise the pain and end the relationship with love, care, trust and respect, so that you can make space for a relationship that’s more befitting of you. Understanding the purpose of breakups will also help with healing old wounds.

If you don't know how to leave, you don't know how to stay. Learn how to break up so that whether you stay in a relationship or opt out, you do some from your most authentic, confident place.

Circle of Trust

This simple but powerful exercise helps you to understand the beauty of boundaries and how when you embrace them, they help you to welcome what you desire. They can be an invitation for good and you can consciously choose the experiences, things and people that are congruent with your values.

This exercise takes in what I have shared about the importance of having a Circle of Trust. For more information on this, check out these posts:

The Circle of Trust – Do you know who’s in yours & why? Are you even inside your own circle?

Podcast Ep. 91: Who’s In Your Entourage?

Are you trying to 419 me? Use your self-esteem operating system to filter out BS & shadiness

Your Big Beautiful Boundaries

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