MODULE 1 – THE FOUNDATION
- Getting a solid, accessible understanding of what self-esteem means so that you can relate to and apply it into your day-to-day living
- Get clear on the symptoms of low self-esteem so that you are conscious about where you are pulling you down instead of nourishing and raising you up
- Challenge some of the ideas and fears that you may have around increasing self-esteem so that these are no longer a barrier to your growth
- Pick up some ‘small habits’ that you can immediately start applying in your day-to-day living
Get into a dialogue with you through journaling
Each week, I will include a few handy tasks and resources. All are optional, of course, but, highly recommended if you want to get the most out of the course. And no, you do not need to do every single journaling prompt.
100 Days of Baggage Reclaim | Week 1
As proof of how small habits can make a profound difference, this book and journaling guide has helped thousands of people to take small steps every day and as part of Build Your Self-Esteem, I’m including it to help you enjoy the wisdom, tips, tools and journaling prompts that I share. Each week of the course, you will receive 7 days of the prompts…plus a little extra. I recommend just doing one per day (doesn’t need more than 5-10 minutes) although, of course, you can opt to do them all in one go. | Download the PDF
6 Common Misconceptions | Journaling Prompts |Download the PDF
The Self-Esteem Blocks | Journaling Prompts | Download the PDF
These are core resources that are the foundations of the Baggage Reclaim philosophy. I refer to them time and time and time again—they are all powerful tools that have been a fundamental part of my own transformation.
Start each day by asking, How am I doing today?, and strive to observe your feelings without judgement or slamming it down. Tempted to judge or unsure what to do with what comes up? Even though I feel _______, I deeply and completely accept myself.
RE BEING INTROVERTED
- Think of it as being left or right-handed (the other hand is not redundant)
- Prioritise where you spend your energy—boundaries!
- Don’t generalise and project—personalise. How you introvert (or extrovert) is not someone else’s experience.
FOR WHEN YOU THINK PEOPLE WITH A HAPPY CHILDHOOD ARE HAVING IT SO MUCH BETTER
- Don’t generalise—everyone has a backstory, everyone has struggled or will struggle
- Acknowledge shame—feeling embarrassed about adulthood struggles or even admitting that your family is less than perfect, is a very real thing
- Try patience—we are not supposed to be happy all the time and we all have to learn as we go
FOR WHEN YOU FEEL AS IF YOU CAN’T SHAKE OFF YOUR CHILDHOOD
- There’s a big difference between awareness and living in the past
- Make a conscious and concerted effort to challenge the script
- Start talking back
- Update your version of events
- Look for evidence
- Make each family member or caregiver human and acknowledge the backstory
- Every experience in adulthood is inviting you to see what you couldn’t see before
FOR WHEN YOU’RE BLAMING YOU FOR OTHER PEOPLE’S BEHAVIOUR
- Stay in your own lane—take responsibility for your own boundaries without blaming you for theirs by amending your thinking/behaviour around that issue
- Notice the pattern—yes, we are all unique but we have universal habits, roles, patterns. Take you out of their equation.
- Use feeling wounded and small as a sign that you are in a child role and to level up
FOR WHEN YOU THINK HAVING SELF-ESTEEM IS NARCISSISTIC
- Get out of ‘get mode’—no longer attractive to or attracted to takers, plus, you will stop making unnecessary sacrifices
- Use “not good enough” response as a cue to find at least 3-5 other reasons
- Catch yourself when making someone an authority or trying to ‘get’ something
FOR WHEN YOU’RE THINKING THAT YOU HAVE TO BE BAGGAGE-FREE TO HAVE SELF-ESTEEM
- Choose something—Not every single ‘piece’ of grievances and guilt needs to be held onto. What can you say bygones to right now?
- Negative feelings point to untruths—suffering means interpretation/story is untrue
- You’re OK right now—remind yourself of this as often as possible. Might not be exactly where you think you ‘should’ be, but you are ok and in progress.