Resources

Please note: This section is undergoing a massive update, plus many of the resources are also being overhauled too. Please bear with me as it switches over.

Over the years, I’ve created a wealth of material to help students and clients tune in to their inner voice, learn and implement lessons, and figure out how to navigate life. This section contains a list (A-Z and by topic) of what has been featured so far, and is the ideal place to come if you’re not sure what you’re looking for or want to binge-read content. Featuring e-books, worksheets/workbooks and tip sheets, there’s plenty to choose from.

ANGER

Expelling The Venom

This exercise evokes and releases the energies of anger, upset, and frustration. It is a primal and effective way to let go of stress and anger. Becoming more viscerally familiar with anger makes space for healthy assertiveness.

Demystifying Aggressive Behaviour

In this guide, I share tips and mindset shifts to help you create healthier boundaries in conflict and criticism situations. It includes guidance on the importance of not relying on text, social media, etc., to make your point, how to distinguish between the present and that person from your past who criticised you a lot or was combative, and why entering into situations as victim or defender puts you on the back foot.

Get To Grips With Anger

>> Get clear on what anger is and its vital purpose

>> Understand what inappropriate anger is

>> Gain perspective by dispelling some common myths that cause you to discard and suppress anger feelings
>> Explore how you transform anger and guide you on uncovering the source of your anger habits including criticism and being desensitised to your own feelings and anger.

Get To Grips With Conflict & Criticism | Tips

In this guide, I share tips and mindset shifts to help you create healthier boundaries in conflict and criticism situations. It includes guidance on the importance of not relying on text, social media, etc., to make your point, how to distinguish between the present and that person from your past who criticised you a lot or was combative, and why entering into situations as victim or defender puts you on the back foot.

Letting Go | Tips

Letting go of painful thoughts and feelings, or just the ideas that we had about something or someone is something we know we need to do but struggle with the how. Here’s a collection of tips.

Tackling Your Hot Buttons

Every person has conflict ‘hot buttons’: triggers, behaviours and situations that are highly likely to aggravate you and cause enough annoyance,irritation, and anger to provoke at the very least, a discussion if not a full–on argument. Use this guide to identify your hot buttons, their sources, your typical responses and possible alternatives.

The 8-Minute Unload

This is an abstract from 100 Days of Baggage Reclaim. My acupuncturist Silvio shared a fantastic tip for settling anxiety, a busy mind, or any other feelings of being unsettled. I’ve used it many times and found it to be transformative and an excellent self-care tool to lean on.

Understanding the Connection Between Rejection & People Pleasing

Getting a sense of what’s driving our behaviour can aid us in healing the past so that it no longer fuels habits that lower our self-worth. All pleasers have some level of fear of rejection otherwise there wouldn’t be any need to do what they do. This workbook will help you get to the bottom of it.

BELIEFS

Examining Beliefs & Evidence

When you examine why you are being hard on you about something, odds are that you feel justified in your attitude due to what you feel is the evidence in your possession such as mistakes and the past, current problems, ‘weaknesses’, comparison and needing help. In reality, it’s unlikely that you’d hold it over someone else and so this journaling guide prompts you to explore how fair and reasonable to you, effectively helping you to pierce a hole in some of your arguments for why you shouldn’t be or do certain things.

Identifying Your Blocks To Self-Care

So, you want to take care of you and try to, for example, self-soothe, and yet it feels, well, weird or even downright difficult. It’s time to identify what’s going on behind the scenes because beliefs about being selfish and how deserving you are of love, care, trust and respect may be getting in the way of self-care.

Unpack 9 Common Limiting Beliefs

If you grapple with challenges like feeling not ‘good enough’, trying to change people, believing that you shouldn’t be disappointed and people-pleasing, I help you to explore these limiting beliefs so that you can move forward by being more you.

BLAME, DOUBT & FEAR

Facing Regret | Journaling Guide

Regret is the sort of thing that can consume you if you don’t face it head on and change the narrative around it. This newly updated guide which I originally created for people doing No Contact will help you get to the truth of things and start to process.

Catch The Resistance

Do you know the specific aspects of your day that are a trigger for self-sabotaging habits? Well, you will do after you do this illuminating exercise. Recognising that you have a part of you that wants certain things but another part that’s caught up in doing things out of obligation can help you to see where you’re resisting and yes, even rebelling at times. Making the connection between certain people and situations that are triggering you can help you to finally give you what you need.

BOUNDARIES

How To Say No: The Scripts

I teach you how to say no when you need, should or want to with over four hundred scripts and lots of actionable advice and tips.

Demystifying Aggressive Behaviour

Part of the Get To Grips with Anger series, this guide is aimed at people pleasers and overthinkers who desire change but are afraid of being perceived as aggressive when they attempt to be more assertive. Increasing awareness of what you typically associate with aggression as well as the anger issues that result from suppressing and repressing your needs, expectations, desires, feelings and opinions is vital to your emotional, mental, physical and spiritual wellbeing.

Get To Grips With Conflict & Criticism | Tips

In this guide, I share tips and mindset shifts to help you create healthier boundaries in conflict and criticism situations. It includes guidance on the importance of not relying on text, social media, etc., to make your point, how to distinguish between the present and that person from your past who criticised you a lot or was combative, and why entering into situations as victim or defender puts you on the back foot.

Get To Grips With Handling C-Situations

Why do we struggle with conflict and criticism, and what can we do to shift our mindset and attitude in this area? Find out more in this guide.

Your Big Beautiful Boundaries

This simple but powerful exercise helps you to understand the beauty of boundaries and how when you embrace them, they help you to welcome what you desire. They can be an invitation for good and you can consciously choose the experiences, things and people that are congruent with your values.

BREAKUPS

How To Break Up: The Scripts

Breaking up is, indeed, something that many people find hard to do, but learning how to articulate that we want or need to end a relationship is a crucial element of moving forward into healthier relationships. Discover 150+ scripts to help you break up when you should, need or want to, including casual relationships, long-distance, when they’re ‘too nice to break up with’, and more.

Work Through Your No Contact Doubts

When you decide to go No Contact after a breakup in order to establish healthy boundaries so that you can move forward with love, care, trust and respect, it’s not uncommon to experience doubt — and they don’t have to derail you. Mine your doubts for guidance and healing with this workbook. Figure out what’s really bothering you and identify ways to support you in doing the right thing for you when doubt inevitably pops up.

HABITS & PATTERNS

7 Key Ways To Identify Your Pattern

Patterns happen when we’re living unconsciously and are behind anything that creates that Groundhog Day feeling in our life. It’s not unusual to feel at a loss as to how to break a pattern, and this handy guide offers powerful jump-off points to help you dig deep.

Pairs really well with The Pattern Breaker masterclass.

Build Detailed Pattern Profiles

Patterns happen when we’re living unconsciously and are behind anything that creates that Groundhog Day feeling in our life. It’s not unusual to feel at a loss as to how to break a pattern, and this handy guide offers powerful jump-off points to help you dig deep.

Pairs really well with The Pattern Breaker masterclass.

Catch The Resistance

Do you know the specific aspects of your day that are a trigger for self-sabotaging habits? Well, you will do after you do this illuminating exercise. Recognising that you have a part of you that wants certain things but another part that’s caught up in doing things out of obligation can help you to see where you’re resisting and yes, even rebelling at times. Making the connection between certain people and situations that are triggering you can help you to finally give you what you need.

NEEDS

Delving Into Your Relationship With Your Needs

This set of thought-provoking questions aids you in compassionately investigating and acknowledging experiences from your past that impact your ability to recognise and take care of your needs, as well as to advocate for them within areas of your life such as at work or in romantic relationships. | Pairs really well with the Needs vs Wants and Needs In Relationships masterclasses.

Emotional Needs | Quick Guide

How aware you are of your emotional needs has a great deal to do with the quality of your relationships and your self-esteem. If you’re unsure what your needs are, you’re not alone. Most people don’t know the difference between needs and wants!

In this quick guide, I take you through emotional needs including what they are, clues from life that we have a need that’s not being met and the difference between meeting a need in a healthy and unhealthy way.

Figure Out Your Voids

This simple but profound exercise is a really helpful way to get clarity about where the voids are coming from in your life, but it also helps you to understand where you need to have some healthier boundaries so that you can take care of you in a more loving way and enjoy more fulfilling relationships.

SELF-ESTEEM

60 Tips for Building Self-Esteem

Growing your relationship with you is a journey, not a destination. I share small yet powerful habits aimed at cementing your relationship with you.

100 Days of Baggage Reclaim

A self-esteem project filled with daily bitesized doses of inspiration, mindset shifts, practices and journaling tips to help you lead a love, care, trust and respect-filled life.

A-Z

7 Key Ways To Identify Your Pattern

60 Tips to Build Your Self-Esteem

100 Days of Baggage Reclaim: The Self-Esteem Project

Addressing Rejection | Tips

Are You The Fallback? (June 2017)

Build Detailed Pattern Profiles (July 2016)

Catch The Resistance (November 2017)

Check In With Yourself About Your Decision (March 2017)

Circle of Trust – My Big Beautiful Boundaries (February 2018)

Code Amber & Red Cheat Sheet For No Contact (June 2016)

Code Red & Amber Cheat Sheet (May 2016)

Connecting With Limiting & Negative Beliefs (The Anxiety Sessions – June 2018)

Day Tracker Worksheet & Guidelines (June 2016)

Declutter Your Sexual Values (February 2017)

Delving Into Your Relationship With Your Needs (July 2017)

Demystifying Aggressive Behaviour (November 2016)

Do I need to set a boundary about that person’s behaviour or my own? (April 2018)

Do you have type? (July 2016)

Emotional Needs | Quick Guide (March 2018)

Examining Your Beliefs & Evidence (The Self-Forgiveness Sessions – May 2018)

Expelling The Venom Exercise (in the updated anger section above)

Explore Your Needs Within Relationships (August 2017)

Facing Regret | Journaling Guide (March 2017)

Figure Out Your Voids (August 2017)

Getting Into Reality With Values (February 2017)

Getting Over ‘Should’, ‘Just’ ‘Sorry but’ Language Habits (August 2017)

Getting Personally Secure: Moving Past Fear of Abandonment & Codependency (July 2016)

Getting To Grips With Anger (in the updated anger section above)

Getting To Grips With Criticism & Conflict (in the updated anger section above)

Goals With Soul (December 2016)

Grounding Exercise (January 2017)

Harnessing The Power of Affirmations (May 2016)

How Do You Feel About You (June 2016)

How Self-Aware Are You? (February 2018)

How To Communicate Your Boundaries From The Zone of Self-Esteem (August 2017)

How To Self-Soothe Guide (May 2017) Also in foundational resources

Letting Go | Tips (in the updated anger section above)

Making It Matter | Journaling Prompts (September 2017)

Needs Exercise (August 2016)

Needs Quick Guide (August 2016)

Needs Journaling Guide (August 2016)

Professor Life worksheet (December 2017)

Reclaiming You | Tips

Recognising Discomfort worksheet (October 2016)

Recognising Feelings Guide (October 2016)

Recognising Narcissistic Behaviour

Releasing Fear: Increasing Self-Awareness By Improving Self-Knowledge (July 2016)

Stop, Start, Continue worksheet (December 2016)

Surrendering Journaling Prompts (December 2017)

Tackling Your Hot Buttons (in the updated anger section above)

The 8-Minute Unload (in the updated anger section above)

The A-Z of Tricky Family Member Issues (June 2017)

The Inner Critic List (September 2017)

The Sacrifice-Resentment Dynamic (April 2018)

The Voids & Filling Up (July 2016)

Types of Boundaries (June 2016)

Uncovering Your Core Beliefs Quiz & Answers (January 2017)

Uncovering Your Walls (October 2017)

Understanding Sadness Journaling Guide (October 2016)

Unpack: 9 Common Limiting Beliefs

Values Worksheet (February 2017)

What’s My Current Emotional State? worksheet (October 2016)

What’s Driving You? + Follow-up Guide Also in foundational resources

What’s Your Procrastination Trigger? (June 2016)

BY TOPIC

BELIEFS

Connecting With Limiting & Negative Beliefs (The Anxiety Sessions – June 2018)

Examining Your Beliefs & Evidence (The Self-Forgiveness Sessions – May 2018)

Get Out of Stuck Guide (August 2016)

Uncovering Your Core Beliefs Quiz & Answers (January 2017)

BLAME, DOUBT & FEAR

Catch The Resistance (November 2017)

Connecting With Limiting & Negative Beliefs (The Anxiety Sessions – June 2018)

Facing Regret | Journaling Guide (March 2017)

Releasing Fear: Increasing Self-Awareness By Improving Self-Knowledge (July 2016)

Surrendering Journaling Prompts (December 2017)

The Blame Buster Guide (May 2016)

The Doubt Buster Guide (June 2016)

The Fear Buster Guide (June 2016)

What’s Your Procrastination Trigger? (June 2016)

BOUNDARIES

Circle of Trust – My Big Beautiful Boundaries (February 2018)

Code Amber & Red Cheat Sheet For No Contact (June 2016)

Code Red & Amber Cheat Sheet (May 2016)

Delving Into Your Relationship With Your Needs (July 2017)

Demystifying Aggressive Behaviour (November 2016)

Do I need to set a boundary about that person’s behaviour or my own? (April 2018)

Getting To Grips With Criticism & Conflict (April 2018)

Figure Out Your Voids (July 2017)

Getting Over “Just”, “Should”, “Sorry but…” & Other Language Habits (August 2017)

How To Communicate Your Boundaries From The Zone of Self-Esteem (August 2017)

Professor Life worksheet (December 2017)

Recognising Discomfort worksheet (October 2016)

Recognising Narcissistic Behaviour

The Sacrifice-Resentment Dynamic (April 2018)

The Voids & Filling Up (July 2016)

Types of Boundaries (June 2016)

Uncovering Your Walls (October 2017)

Your Big Beautiful Boundaries (October 2017)

BREAKUPS

Check In With Yourself About Your Decision (March 2017)

Code Amber & Red Cheat Sheet For No Contact (June 2016)

Day Tracker Worksheet & Guidelines (June 2016)

Facing Regret | Journaling Guide (March 2017)

EMOTIONS

Catch The Resistance (November 2017)

Emotional Needs | Quick Guide (March 2018)

How To Self-Soothe Guide (May 2017) Also in foundational resources

Recognising Discomfort worksheet (October 2016)

Recognising Feelings Guide (October 2016)

Surrendering Journaling Prompts (December 2017)

Understanding Sadness Journaling Guide (October 2016)

JOURNALING

Are You Hobbling Yourself At The Starting Blocks With These Limiting Beliefs? (May 2016)

Facing Regret | Journaling Guide (March 2017)

Making It Matter | Journaling Prompts (September 2017)

Understanding Sadness Journaling Guide (October 2016)

NEEDS

Circle of Trust – My Big Beautiful Boundaries (February 2018)

Delving Into Your Relationship With Your Needs (July 2017)

Emotional Needs | Quick Guide (March 2018)

Explore Your Needs Within Relationships (August 2017)

Figure Out Your Voids (July 2017)

Needs Exercise (August 2016)

Needs Journaling Guide (August 2016)

Needs Quick Guide (August 2016)

What’s Driving You? + Follow-up Guide Also in foundational resources

PATTERNS & HABITS

Are You The Fallback? (June 2017)

Build Detailed Pattern Profiles (July 2016)

Catch The Resistance (November 2017)

Connecting With Limiting & Negative Beliefs (The Anxiety Sessions – June 2018)

Delving Into Your Relationship With Your Needs (July 2017)

Do you have type? (July 2016)

Figure Out Your Voids (July 2017)

Get Out of Stuck Guide (August 2016)

Getting Personally Secure: Moving Past Fear of Abandonment & Codependency (July 2016)

How Self-Aware Are You? (February 2018)

Letting Go | Tips

Professor Life worksheet (December 2017)

Surrendering Journaling Prompts (December 2017)

The Sacrifice-Resentment Dynamic (April 2018)

The Voids & Filling Up (July 2016)

What’s Driving You? + Follow-up Guide Also in foundational resources

RELATIONSHIPS

Are You The Fallback? (June 2017)

Build Detailed Pattern Profiles (July 2016)

Delving Into Your Relationship With Your Needs (July 2017)

Emotional Needs | Quick Guide (March 2018)

Explore Your Needs Within Relationships (August 2017)

Figure Out Your Voids (July 2017)

Love, Care, Trust & Respect (April 2017)

Recognising Narcissistic Behaviour

The A-Z of Tricky Family Member Issues (June 2017)

The Sacrifice-Resentment Dynamic (April 2018)

The Voids & Filling Up (July 2016)

SELF-ESTEEM & SELF-CARE

60 Tips to Build Your Self-Esteem (May 2016)

100 Days of Baggage Reclaim: The Self-Esteem Project (September 2016) Also in foundational resources

Catch The Resistance (November 2017)

Check In With Yourself About Your Decision (March 2017)

Delving Into Your Relationship With Your Needs (July 2017)

Emotional Needs | Quick Guide (March 2018)

Figure Out Your Voids (July 2017)

Getting Over “Just”, “Should”, “Sorry but…” & Other Language Habits (August 2017)

Goals With Soul (December 2016)

Get Out of Stuck Guide (August 2016)

Getting Personally Secure: Moving Past Fear of Abandonment & Codependency (July 2016)

Grounding Exercise (January 2017)

Harnessing The Power of Affirmations (May 2016)

How Do You Feel About You (June 2016)

How Self-Aware Are You? (February 2018)

How To Self-Soothe Guide (May 2017) Also in foundational resources

Love, Care, Trust & Respect (April 2017)

Needs Exercise (August 2016)

Needs Journaling Guide (August 2016)

Needs Quick Guide (August 2016)

Reclaiming You | Tips

Recognising Feelings Guide (October 2016)

Releasing Fear: Increasing Self-Awareness By Improving Self-Knowledge (July 2016)

Stop, Start, Continue worksheet (December 2016)

Surrendering Journaling Prompts (December 2017)

The 8-Minute Unload (November 2016)

The Doubt Buster Guide (June 2016)

The Fear Buster Guide (June 2016)

The Voids & Filling Up (July 2016)

What’s My Current Emotional State? worksheet (October 2016)

VALUES

Declutter Your Sexual Values (February 2017)

Delving Into Your Relationship With Your Needs (July 2017)

Getting Into Reality With Values (February 2017)

Values Worksheet (February 2017)

What Are My Values? (January 2018) Also in foundational resources

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