Welcome, , to The No Contact Rule course.
Module 1 (Week 1) Understanding No Contact
Module 2 (Week 2) Understanding Your Situation
Module 3 (Week 3) Coming To Terms With Your Decision, Loss & Grief
Module 4 (Week 4) Rebuilding Your Life
Weeks 5 – 12 Bitesize support emails at varying intervals filled with reminders, tips, and inspiration to help you with the implementation as well as the self-soothing needed to help you through grieving and improving your sense of self.
You have twelve months access to the course material.
To implement (and then maintain) No Contact so that you can navigate you successfully out of an unhealthy situation and move forward.
To understand No Contact as an empowering and healthy process: what is it, what’s involved, how the principles of what you’re doing equate to not continuing to engage in unhealthy dynamics, the benefits of NC, and tools and strategies for focusing on and improving your wellbeing.
By the end of this course, you should be able to:
- Apply No Contact habits to your situation in a healthier way.
- Understand what actually happened as opposed to the story you’ve been telling you that was crushing your self-esteem.
- Have a plan for dealing with your NC situation and be in the process of implementing it.
- Identify and differentiate between healthy and unhealthy behaviour and thinking, including recognising code amber and red behaviour.
- Make some initial steps to self-soothing you out of difficult feelings and going through the grieving process, including being able to talk you ‘off the ledge’ when tempted to fall off the wagon.
- Identify the pattern of an unhealthy dynamic; understand cues, triggers, and responses understanding to your own behaviour as well as to others or a dynamic.
- Approach you and the effect of this situation in a more self-compassionate manner; reduce judgement of you, change the meaning that you’ve assigned to it and you.
- Use the tools provided, to home in on regrets, fear, doubt and unhealthy beliefs, and get to a more balanced perspective.
- Have identified ways and means in which you can improve the way that you feel about you and rebuild your life.
- Be more conscious, aware, and present – less reactive and impulsive about this person and situation.
Worksheets and resources are provided across all modules for courses at BR School. They are designed to enhance your understanding of the subject and to personalise that module’s subject(s) to your own experiences. All homework is aimed at increasing self-awareness and self-knowledge. This helps you to not only be conscious, aware, and present, which leaves you less dictated by the past or anxious about the future, but it also helps you to be more congruent in your thinking, words, and actions. This is about listening to you but also having a more honest conversation with you.
Any worksheets and resources provided (‘homework’) aren’t mandatory and don’t have to be completed if you don’t wish to, although it’s of course very beneficial if you do. I want you to get the most out of the course so of course I want you to do as much reading, writing, and thinking as possible!
I will stress again though that the courses are self-paced. Do homework in your own time and don’t put yourself under immense pressure – all courses have access beyond the length of the course. The No Contact Rule has 12 months access.
The idea of homework is to engage with a subject deeper, to question yourself and start a habit of having an ongoing dialogue with you. Doing the homework is also useful if you feel that you need some extra insight from me. I am more than happy to answer any quick questions that you have – submit them during Office Hours sessions if you have a subscription (find out more in The Hub) or, if you have requested to become a member, the secret Facebook group.
Before requesting feedback, make sure you read the module’s classes and do the homework! You're likely to find an answer there.
It’s to be expected that sometimes there will be a quirk. We try to get issues resolved very quickly… as long as when the issue is reported, that there’s a fairly clear idea of what the issue is.
Please email firstname.lastname@example.org and provide the following information to minimise confusion. Please do not post tech queries in the comments or on the Facebook group. This can cause a significant delay and possible confusion to other students.
If it’s about not being able to access a page on the site, please copy and paste the link of the page that you’re getting the error on.
If it’s about not being able to access a file, please copy and paste the link of the page that you’re getting the error on or the exact title of page. It’s very possible that there are some similarly named pages (for example a series with ‘part 2′ or whatever), but if you report that it’s The Quick Brown Fox page when it’s actually The Quick Brown Fox Part 5, we’ll be talking at cross purposes saying “Error? What error?”
If it’s to do with how something is displayed, let us know which browser and what version you’re using and whether you’re on a Mac or PC.
If you get an error on logging in, log out and log back in before reporting.
If you’re fairly confident with computers, screengrabs are very welcome.
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
How does online learning work?
Baggage Reclaim School is a private site featuring a mix of learning content – written, audio, video, worksheets, workbooks, ebooks etc. All you need to access the course material is a decent internet connection and an up-to-date browser like Firefox, Safari or Google Chrome.
Is there a set time when I need to sign in?
Nope. This is self-paced so show up whenever you like and read as much or as little as you like. This isn’t a live course because students are from all over the globe and of course have their own lives and schedules. As of 2015 BR School courses are access anytime, as opposed to start on set course date with a group of students. For you as a No Contact Rule student, your course schedule starts from the day you get your username and password sent to you. The modules are released weekly – I phase in content so as not to overwhelm but to also focus students – but you can read whatever content is available to you when you want to. Emails you receive alerting you to new content, are notifications not me nagging.
How do I access my course material?
This is your course page. Bookmark it. You'll also find a link to it in The Hub (along with any other courses and lots of useful information). Please bookmark that too.
How do I interact with Natalie and fellow students?
There are Office Hours sessions (again, see The Hub). Office Hours sessions are only available to students who have a relevant subscription. There is a private Facebook group for the school.
Am I graded?
Er, no. This is a learning environment but there’s no exams. This is about the journey not the destination.
Will there be more courses?
Yes! And as a student you get them at a special rate! Have a look at what's on offer in The Hub.
Do I need special software to do this course?
No. What you do need is an up to date internet browser like Safari, Google Chrome or Firefox and a decent internet connection, especially if you’re watching videos or dialing in to a live class or web meet. Course are compatible with PCs and Macs. Most material is downloadable so you will need a PDF reader (one comes with your computer) like Preview or Adobe Acrobat and if you want to be able to type into files then you will need Pages/Word.
How long do I have access for?
You have 12 months access from when you're sent your joining email.